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Why Does My Child Act Up for No Reason?


June 29, 2017

Why Does My Child Act Up for No Reason?

Making Sense of Sensory Processing

All of us with children are well versed in the challenges of helping our little ones navigate through episodes of frustration or unusual behavior. Tantrums or unexpected actions most always have a cause – and parents who work down the typical checklist of tiredness, hunger, sickness, need of attention, boredom or something similar can usually isolate the culprit that is leading to their behavior. Some parents, however, who end up perplexed and frustrated by the lack of an apparent trigger point may be well served to look deeper for other not-so-obvious causes for unusual behavior.

Needless to say, this “unexplained” behavior can be very frustrating for parents, but if you think this situation might describe you and your child, take heart. There is help. In my 20 plus years as a trained and licensed Occupational Therapist working with children with developmentally oriented learning, speech and behavior issues, I’ve learned that you can always make corrective progress once you determine the cause and take an appropriate action. The key is determining what your child needs to properly navigate his or her environment – and then providing the right “toolkit” of support.

Explaining Sensory Processing Disorder

Our natural senses provide our brains with an ongoing onslaught of information that must be absorbed, sorted and processed before we can make a determination on how to react to a particular stimulus. For example, under normal circumstances, an individual in a crowded room would be able to ignore much of the background noise and hold a meaningful conversation. Similarly, for most of us, the presence of extreme bright light on an especially sunny day wouldn’t disturb the ability to concentrate and safely operate a car. Our neurological system takes in the stimulation, interprets it, organizes it, and uses it to properly react with appropriate energy, focus, emotion and behavior.

It’s generally perceived that everyone’s neurological processing ability works the same. However, many children and adults can be affected by Sensory Processing Disorder, or SPD. Sensory Processing Disorder is a developmental disorder which some neurology experts have equated to a stimulus “traffic jam” affecting a person’s ability to properly make sense of the information being received. Those with SPD have challenges processing certain types or degrees of sound, light, flavors, food texture, movement, or other sensory exposure that most of us consider routine, which causes confusion and frustration and, in turn, especially in children, is exhibited in tantrums or other unusual behavior. These behaviors might include the child having difficulties playing with friends, struggling to hold a pencil or scissors, being discontent sitting still, experiencing unusual clumsiness, or generally seeming “sensitive” to the world.

Neurological Sensory Development Starts in the Womb

The normal neurological sensory process begins in the womb and continues for the rest of our lifetime, with special significance during our first seven years of childhood. During this evolutionary period, a person develops the skills necessary to become functional and self- sufficient. The expectations for the level of development of these skills will vary depending on age. More importantly, all of these skills are developing simultaneously and impairment of any one area is likely to stunt development in other areas. These complicated and intertwined growth patterns, at times, need help to “catch up” to what would otherwise be considered a standard rate of development. Statistics indicate that one in 20 young ones need or could benefit from receiving special therapy to help overcome these delays.

Early Treatment Equals Greater Success

The important thing for parents to know if their child is experiences a SPD challenge is that there is accessible help! Pediatric Occupational Therapists use a treatment approach called Sensory Integration to help overcome SPD and get the child back on track to normal development.  Education and involvement of the family may also be critical to success.

Parents can and should take an active role – not only in looking for potential issues, but for understanding as much as they can about the sensory process. Learning about Sensory Integration will help every parent understand their child and themselves better – and will enable them to breed greater compassion and understanding and, most importantly, stronger relationships with their loved ones.

About the Author

Melissa Idelson is the Director and Founder of the Child Success Center, one of the preeminent child development assistance facilities serving the greater Los Angeles area. Ms. Idelson, is one of the most sought after and well respected certified occupational therapists in Southern California and is endorsed and routinely referred by pediatricians, parenting counselors and trainers throughout the region.

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